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The onset of Daylight Savings Time means Spring is right around the corner. We have approximately 6 more days before it is officially Spring. You know what that means? We will be seeing all shades of pink and more pink. If you’re a girlie girl like me, you can’t wait.

One of my favorite colors is pink. I love pink lipsticks and glosses. Spring Time means more soft pinks and nude pinks, but I don’t care. I can’t wait for hot pinks and fuchsia, also. Pink is a girl’s color just like blue is associated with guys. The color pink always makes you think of softness and femininity.

When I wear pink, I just feel like such a lady. This is why Spring is my favorite season. Spring is the season associated with fun, sun, and flowers. It’s the season where you begin to plant your flowers and watch them bloom. In essence, it’s the season of growth and expansion.

For those of you who haven’t started doing anything productive yet this year, now is the time to plant and wait for your harvest. Therefore, when you see pink flowers, pink lips, or pink dresses, you should think about cultivation, sprouting, and production.

Don’t wait another six months to try to do something. Get started today! Pull out your pink and let it inspire you. I’m wearing my pink all Spring! Pink has power. Tap into it today…

 

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Love. The simple utterance of the word sends fireworks into the atmosphere. It evokes images of laughter, smiling faces and holding hands. Probably one of the most captivating words in the English language, it conjures up feelings of passion, yearning and undeniable emotion. At mere mention, women get giddy while men become afraid. It is a word that has the ability to rock a solid foundation or construct a weak one. Like lightning, love will jolt the body and electrify the soul. Each letter taken seriously, love, in all of its glory, is the air by which many of us breathe.

The world has deemed February as the month of love. What is True love?

Defined by Webster’s as a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection toward; love is penetrating. It is thought provoking. It is heart wrenching.

Defined by the Bible (I Corinthians 13); love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious, is not puffed up, is not selfish or easily provoked, does not think evil, rejoices in truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

True love is the essence of Webster’s worldview definition and the biblical definition combined. It is the ability to respond unconditionally. With no strings, attachments or judgment, love pays no regard to circumstance. Love is both shared and given “in spite” of condition. Love is faithful and shows affection or concern no matter the circumstance. It keeps no record of wrong. Love, in its purest form, acts as a catalyst drawing others close.

Love is so amazing it searches for the best, hunting deeply its prey, vowing never to give up.

Love is not “me first.” It places others in the space that “self” yearns to occupy, always considering the will and desires of others.

Love takes its time and considers things that are good. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. It does not take from others to satisfy self. It is not haughty or puffed up. On the contrary, love is mild and meek but not weak by any means; always focusing on the greater good.

Love is honest and true. It means what is says and expresses itself genuinely.

Don’t misunderstand these characteristics of love, they are filled with passion but are careful, considerate, intentional.

If you’ve determined by now that true love is inconceivable, you’re right. True love is rare; a sparse commodity. When discovered, it should be cherished, adorned, preserved. For the Bible reminds us that the grass will wither, the flowers will fade (Isaiah 40:8), even the gifts will cease, but love never dies.

As we prepare for Valentine’s Day, I implore you to search your hearts and minds. Determine if what you truly feel for the object of your affection meets the scope of the true definition of love.  If not, you might have some work to do.  Check your love meter.  In order to find and have true love, you must first open your hearts to it. I challenge each of you to try to truly love someone other than yourself.

Please share your comments and experiences of true love with us! We would love to hear your stories.

I have designated this month “Go Red or Go Home” month.  I believe that we should boldly go into this month wearing lots and lots of red lips! Yes, I meant red lips! If you choose to try to decorate any other part of your body in red, be my guest.  However, I’m going to focus on a very specific part of the body that I believe needs a little extra attention: the lips.

Believe it or not, some people are afraid of the color red on their lips. Surprisingly, those same people don’t realize that red is our friend.  Red isn’t a good for nothing color.  It has purpose and meaning.  It’s bold, adventurous, and cocky! Wearing red isn’t for the faint at heart.  When a woman wears red on her lips, she means business.  Red can also be perfect for a little extra flirtatious behavior.  Red lips can send off any number of mixed messages when worn right.

There are those moments in life when we need to make bold statements.  We need to step out with confidence and courage.  Sometimes a girl just needs an extra pick me up, but doesn’t want to make a huge fuss with her makeup.  That is when red lips will do the trick. I’m going to give you my four ultimate rules for wearing red lips.

  1. Wear red lips when you wear all black.  Black is sexy and slimming, but it’s also dull and lifeless.  That’s where red comes in. Add red to your lips and change your entire look.
  2. If your complexion is fair, wear tomato red lips.
  3. If you’re medium or brown, wear blue-based reds or berry-like lip stains.
  4. The darker you are, the deeper the red should be.  Therefore, if you’re dark brown, then you should try red wines.

These are my four top rules for red! Try them out this month. Go Red or Go Home!

 

 

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February isn’t just the month for lovers.  It’s also the month for “red”.  Red has so many different meanings.  It’s such a strong color.  It has the power to make you react.  It’s the color that ignites passion.  Red is associated with emotion and power.  That’s why it’s the perfect color to symbolize  and express love.  When you wear red, it arouses the same emotions from the opposite sex, which is why every woman should be wearing red this month.

Studies have shown that when women who wear red can easily get a man’s attention.  It doesn’t matter if you’re wearing a red dress, a red hat, or red lips.  Red can get the attention of a man.  Therefore, single women looking to attract the opposite sex should be wearing red.  I mean lots of it! This doesn’t just apply to women who are single. Women who are attached should try my theory on their significant others, also.  Put some red on and see don’t you grab your man’s attention faster.

This month, I have a challenge for you ladies.  Wear red as much as you can. Wear red clothes or red lips.  Make sure that help make this “red” month.  Even though Valentine’s day will soon be approaching, you should be preparing for this special day by wearing the heck out of red.  Not just because you’re trying to get someone’s attention, but because red is stimulating and exciting. Ladies, put that red hot chilly pepper dress on and let’s all woman wear red.  Tell me what type of reaction you receive.

 

 

 

 

 

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I know we have all had those days when we just don’t feel like doing anything extra when we awaken in the morning, much less add makeup to our faces.  It’s bad enough we have to get up and actually put clothes on, but even on a bad day adding a little makeup is pushing it.  Nevertheless, being a busy diva means that you cannot just leave the house looking any old kind of way.  Indeed,  Beyonce’ woke up like that, but that isn’t the case for many of us.  Therefore, perfection requires work.

Likewise, that doesn’t mean that you’re not already cute, but I mean kickass caliber.  I’m ready for my close-up kind of cute.  That takes a little more work.  For all of you lazy glamazons that want to look great with as little effort as possible, I have created a quick guide to help create an easy makeup job for a lazy day.  Follow these steps and you will totally not look like you’re just winging it.

  1. Get plenty of rest at night.  It’s hard work trying to fix tired, puffy eyes when you don’t feel like it or are in a hurry.  If you don’t want to have to do extra work on your lazy makeup days, then girl, get some sleep.
  2. Always clean your face before bed and when you awaken in the morning.  I suspect Picasso never started one of his masterpieces on a messy canvas and neither should you.  Clean your face daily and save yourself some work trying to cover up blemishes or breakouts.  It will make a tremendous difference when you’re in a rush and you don’t want to have to work that hard.
  3. Skip the foundation.  Instead, blot concealer on strategically placed problem areas.  For instance, if you’re trying to cover dark spots, blot your concealer on the dark spots you want to cover only. Then blend.  Concealer will give you more even coverage.
  4. Make sure your lashes are on point. If you don’t wear lashes, then use a great mascara.  Lashes can make a huge differences in waking up your face.  If you are a lash gal, like me, then you already know to keep those lashes in good shape especially for lazy makeup days.
  5. Groom your eye brows.  Period. Point blank.  If your eye brows aren’t nicely groomed, then your makeup will look lazy.  I’m sorry, but it will.  You can get away with a lot, but not bad eye brows. Don’t be lazy with them!
  6. Finally, top it all off with a pop of color on your lips.  I suggest lip gloss and not lipstick.  Since you’re not wearing a lot of makeup and this is the lazy guide, then you want to look like you’re not trying too hard.  Lip gloss is sexier and a lot less hassle.

This about sums it up.  Inevitably, we all have those days where we need a quick fix for a lazy day. Try these tricks and tell me how they work for you. Let me know what you think below.

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I have this thing with women who love to brag that they don’t wear makeup like it’s some badge of honor or something. I always tell those women, “okay, I get it!” What I don’t tell the ladies is the real tragedy of being the chic who doesn’t wear makeup EVER is that you’re limiting yourself from so many other growth possibilities. You see, when you reveal the fact that you never wear makeup, you’re essentially telling me that you don’t adapt well to change, you’re possibly not open to growth, nor do you like to learn new things.

After all, are you going to go to that important dinner with no makeup on? You think Angelina Jolie wants to hit the red carpet with no makeup? Is Michelle Obama ever seen at the White House without makeup? Of course, these women would not ever attend any important function in the public eye without that quintessential “beat”.

I see applying makeup as an activity the same as learning how to ride a bike or drive a car. In the beginning it seems hard, but once you get going and doing it regularly you see driving is an activity that makes your life easier. Further, you look good doing it. One might think that comparing applying makeup to driving cars is ludicrous, but it isn’t. They are both two activities that you learn how to do so that it helps you. At first, you might not be that good at it, but over time with practice you can improve your skills. In the end, you benefit from learning.

I started experimenting with makeup when I was five years old. I’m not kidding! My fascination with makeup started early. I think I had mastered how to apply makeup to my face by the time I was in the 6th grade. In those developing years, I learned a lot. The most important thing I learned from applying my makeup is how I could go from blah to beat! One of my colleagues told me years ago that on any given day when I didn’t wear makeup I was just Ponchitta Thompson. However, once I walked in with my makeup and hair on fleek, I was transformed into someone else. That colleague was right! Just like me, you too, can take baby steps to learn to create your own beat face.

That face beat made all the difference for me. My attitude changed, my self-esteem was at an all-time high, and my confidence levels were incredible. When my makeup is done right, I feel like I can take on the world. I’ve had many women tell me they feel empowered in the same way when they get their faces beat.

I think it’s a beautiful thing when you’re naturally confident. The woman who needs no extra confidence boost in the morning when she awakens or the woman that doesn’t need a spike in their confidence by adding lashes or red lips is someone special. To that woman, I applaud you because you’re a rarity.

However, for the rest of us that need that extra pep in our step or the extra jumpstart to boost our morale, I say don’t you dare feel bad because you love the beat. That beat does for us what spinach did for Popeye. It turns us into the strong, courageous women that we need to be to conquer all we must do in this world. I lift my wine glass up to all the women that don’t mind admitting that they love going from blah to beat. Once you start, it will change your life. You’re the real heroines.

 

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Dr. Martin Luther King wasn’t the only person with a vision for mankind.  Mere mortals like myself tend to have visions of grandeur that transform the human race, but in a very different way. The only difference in our dreams is my dream involves makeup and people.  However, don’t get it twisted! My dreams are just as surreal.

Every night I dream about all I would do if I had all the makeup in the world.   All the good I could do to beautify all of the female inhabitants therein.  I dream about every woman on earth being contoured to death! Every little girl would be wearing pink lips daily!  Every grandma, no matter the age, would be wearing fifty shades of red.  Don’t you dare think my dreams are silly.  They are very significant.

Just like Martin Luther King, Jr. I know my dream would make a difference in the world, too.  All women would feel beautiful and confident.  Women would feel empowered and special.  The makeup that I would share with the world would make every woman colorful and picturesque.  The world would truly be more beautiful.  We would look at people differently and view the world differently because all women would be visually pretty.

My dreams consist of a world full of prettiness and nothing ugly.  Makeup might be viewed as an external fix to some, but it is an internal fix, also.  When you look extraordinarily good, you feel extraordinarily good.  If makeup has the power to revamp and enhance one’s natural beauty, then I don’t think it’s wrong to envision a world in which all women have the opportunity to morph into something visually amazing.

Martin Luther King stated that the March on Washington would go down in history as “the greatest demonstration of freedom in the history of our nation.”  My vision is similar, but with a twist because the same ugliness he wanted to eradicate is just like the ugliness I want to erase in the same way.  Likewise, a nation filled with  pretty faces and colorfulness can only make the world a better place.  I have a dream to put makeup on the faces of as many women as possible one day.  That’s the greatest demonstration of freedom to me.:)

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You’ve met this chic before.  You ask her what brand lipstick she has on and she pulls out her MAC tube like she’s holding gold straight from U. S. Mint.  You immediately want to tell her, “Girl, bye!” Instead you just sit back and gloat because she just spent $15 on lipstick that’s cute, but you spent $2.99 on your Wet n Wild and you’re cute, too, with an extra $12 in your wallet to go buy more!  Yea, makeup snobs are a trip aren’t they?

A makeup snob believes that your makeup isn’t poppin unless you have to rob a bank to pay for it.  A makeup snob believes that the best makeup only comes from expensive department stores.  Lastly, a makeup snob believes that because she strictly wears MAC, Lancome, or Dior, her makeup game is somehow superior to the budget-friendly shopper that chooses to wear Cover Girl or Maybelline.

Allow me to set the record straight.  Although some brands are marketed as high end products, price alone does not dictate whether its a better product or not for the consumer.  When it comes to makeup, there are many factors to consider that determine what products are better than others.  In particular, your personal skincare needs and sensitivities should determine which products are better suited for you. Cost, location, or prestige should have nothing to do with why you buy your cosmetics products.  Popularity and packaging does not mean better.

However, there are some products that cost more because they contain ingredients that others might not.  Be certain that those are ingredients that you personally need rather than want because someone told you you might need them.

The next time you shop for makeup don’t overlook drug store products because they are in the drugstore.  Cover Girl and Revlon have some of the best lipsticks on the market.  The quality is just as good as MAC and a few dollars cheaper.  Even if money isn’t an issue, maybe convenience is.  Don’t overlook some of the cheaper products because you’re busy being a makeup snob to notice there is very little difference in the quality.  After all, it’s just makeup, gals! Buy that Wet n Wild, girl!  Live a little…

Share with us what your favorite brands are below.

 

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How do you visualize yourself? What thoughts do you have of yourself? Do you allow the opinion of others to make you doubt yourself? These are questions we should ask ourselves when we suffer with “low self-esteem” issues that affect many of us in our lives. Yes, it happens to many us. Yes, it has happened to me.
Webster-Merriam’s definition of self-esteem is “a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities.” Social Media images, celebrities, family, friends, co-workers, and people in authority play a part in making us feel like we should act and look a certain way. Whether you are comparing yourself to someone else or you are looking into someone else’s wishing to have their life, this behavior is not conducive to healthy self-esteem!
Respecting ourselves will allow us to have a better perspective and realize that none of us is the same. Everyone struggles with something. It is so important to love yourself first. Loving yourself should be easy, but there are times when it must be learned. As a teenager, there was a period when I was ashamed of my body because I was diagnosed with scoliosis. Even though I was considered “shapely” in those days, being told that I would never walk again made me have a lowly opinion of myself. Therefore, I developed low self-esteem. As a result, I believed I was no longer pretty, no one would want to be my friend, and my body was grossly disfigured. Then, a family member prayed for me, told me to look in the mirror daily and repeat:
“I’m fearfully and wonderfully made by God.”
Psalm 139:14
However, it was a process and took time for me to believe it and feel it in my heart. As I grew stronger and felt better about myself daily, I had to realize that no one knew I had scoliosis unless I told them because it was not visible to others. Thus, God saw fit to reveal things that man said would happen to me due to the diagnosis that did not happen.
Today I want to remind you that you are unique and different. It is ok to be YOU.

Still, with all of your flaws, you are even more beautiful. Do not allow the lies of the enemy to affect your view of yourself. It’s all about what you feel on the inside that will make your outside shine. Four things you should do daily to improve your self-esteem:
1) Pray.
2) Love God and Yourself.
3) Repeat a scripture and/or affirmations while looking in the mirror.
4) Treat others how you want to be treated.

Remember:
Life is full of difficulties that can shape our lives for good or bad. It’s all about how we go through those difficulties to help strengthen our character and ourselves. It is ok to feel discouraged, but do not stay that way. Adjust your crown daily and build healthy self-esteem because you are “fearfully and wonderfully made by God.”

Be Encouraged!
Tammie Johnson Porter

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Tammie Porter is a motivational speaker who founded “Be Encouraged” ministry and travels all over speaking to women about building healthy self-esteem. Her professional background is in mental and emotional health.  She lives in East Texas with her two handsome sons.

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Years ago, I only wore MAC because I thought that MAC was to makeup what Bentley was to cars. I didn’t know that I was wearing the wrong color foundation for years. My girlfriends and I, all of which were various different complexions, skin types and nationalities, were all wearing NC 45 foundation.

It wasn’t until I had really gotten into paying attention to my products, learning about my skin, and trying others years later that I realized that I had bought into all of the hype like every other girl. I was searching for answers and allowing other people to tell me anything. Instead, I should have sought out my own. Now, I’ve learned a few things and I know the secret that every woman should know when they go to buy makeup. I, my dear, am going to share with you a few things that I have learned along the way that might help you.

 1) Learn your skin type.  Before you purchase any products for your skin you at least need to know what type of skin you have. The basic skin types are oily, dry, combination or normal. I wouldn’t recommend an oil-based foundation for a person with oily skin. That person would look like a glow pop doll! I don’t mean that in a good way. However, when you’re aware of your skin type, then you will know that your skin needs well balanced products in order to produce well balanced skin. Learning your skin type should be your first order of business to figure out the products you should purchase.

2) Determine whether or not you’re battling skin issues. Do you suffer from acne? Do you have wrinkles, brown spots, red spots, sun damage, rough skin, or enlarged pores. These issues need to be addressed before you try to pack on excess makeup on your face to try to cover the problem area. If you’ve tried over-the-counter products for your issue and it hasn’t worked, then I would suggest a trip to the dermatologist before purchasing any new products. Your products could be adding to the problem.

3) Purchase skincare products BEFORE you purchase your cosmetics products. Great skin is always better than great makeup. I know that may seem weird coming from a bonafide makeup junkee, but it’s true. Once you get your skin in proper balance, then the makeup part will become easier.

4) Find out what your skin type requires.  If you’re oily, you need less moisture and oil. If you’re dry, you need more moisture. If you’re combination, then you need a combined balance of the two. My suggestion would be skin care products that cater to your skin type. Cleansers specifically for dry skin or exfoliants that are geared towards oily skin will help combat any of the problems you encounter with your particular skin type.

5) Become very familiar with your skin tone. Are you fair, medium, or dark? Is your complexion warm or cool? These are very important questions to learn. Warm tones are more golden or yellow. While cool tones have more blue in the skin’s undertones. If you’re still not sure, ask yourself which you look better in gold or silver. That will provide more insight. Knowing this information will help prepare you for this one final step.

6) Search for the brand that best suits your skin type and complexion. This is the most important rule when choosing your makeup. If you can answer these six questions with absolute certainty, then you are well on your way to choosing the right products for your skin. Don’t choose your makeup because everybody is buying it or wearing it. Their skin isn’t like yours. Your needs are very different from your friends. Therefore, you must buy those products that are best for you. I have no doubt that your skin and makeup will be amazing once you figure it out.

If you have any questions about this post, respond in the comments below!