My 2017 Beauty Wish List

I’m a list person. I love to make lists. I take pleasure in writing goals, resolutions, and especially to-do lists. I like to plan for the things that I try to accomplish and the things I want.  However, I rarely make Christmas lists.  When Christmas rolls around, I just wing it. Even though my children made their Christmas lists for me faithfully each year when they were young, I never paid much attention to their lists because I had my own. Don’t judge me. 🙁

For me, Christmas is a time for giving. I always considered creating a Christmas list as an act of selfishness. Christmas isn’t the time to be selfish. Typically, we tend to spend money for Christmas gifts that we wouldn’t buy any other time of the year.  Thus, the splurge mentality.  This past year I had a thought. I realized that creating a want list for Christmas is no different than when I create lists for my goals and my New Year’s Resolutions. I completed my “want list” for Christmas and recently got everything on my list.  I am rewarding myself with a few items that I have worked hard for throughout the year. I decided to splurge a little. Lucky for me, the only thing I love is makeup!!!!

I made my list and checked it twice.  Therefore, I decided that is even more of a reason for me to follow through with my list. This year has been a doozie for me, complete with many highs and lows. With every obstacle, I managed to survive. I can’t think of any other reason why I shouldn’t treat myself to a few of my favorite beauty goodies for conquering all of the hurdles of 2016. These are my MVPs for 2017.

1) The Tartelette Naturals Palette $34.50 (www.ulta.com) Shown above.

What’s great about it:  It’s great natural clay palette for the eyes.  Clay matte makes the application go on smoothly and naturally.

2) Mia 2 Clarisonic Brush $169 (www.ulta.com)


What’s great about it: It has dual power with two speeds.  It deep cleans the skin and leaves the face feeling like a baby’s bottom.

3) Lorac Tantalizer Baked Bronzer $35 (www.ulta.com)

What’s great about it: It can be used on any complexion. It gives the perfect bronze glow and it’s not too light or too dark.

4) Anastastia Beverly Hills eye brow pencil (dark brown and soft brown)v $18.50 (www.sephora.com)


What’s great about it: It’s the Bentley of eye brow pencils.  It can be described in one word: precise.

5) DiorShow Mascara $28.50 (www.ulta.com)


What’s great about it: This one product makes your lashes look like fake lashes. It has ltwo ends: one primer, the other mascara.

These are my beauty favs. What are yours?

 

 

 

 

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What is the meaning of love?

 

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Love. The simple utterance of the word sends fireworks into the atmosphere. It evokes images of laughter, smiling faces and holding hands. Probably one of the most captivating words in the English language, it conjures up feelings of passion, yearning and undeniable emotion. At mere mention, women get giddy while men become afraid. It is a word that has the ability to rock a solid foundation or construct a weak one. Like lightning, love will jolt the body and electrify the soul. Each letter taken seriously, love, in all of its glory, is the air by which many of us breathe.

The world has deemed February as the month of love. What is True love?

Defined by Webster’s as a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection toward; love is penetrating. It is thought provoking. It is heart wrenching.

Defined by the Bible (I Corinthians 13); love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious, is not puffed up, is not selfish or easily provoked, does not think evil, rejoices in truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

True love is the essence of Webster’s worldview definition and the biblical definition combined. It is the ability to respond unconditionally. With no strings, attachments or judgment, love pays no regard to circumstance. Love is both shared and given “in spite” of condition. Love is faithful and shows affection or concern no matter the circumstance. It keeps no record of wrong. Love, in its purest form, acts as a catalyst drawing others close.

Love is so amazing it searches for the best, hunting deeply its prey, vowing never to give up.

Love is not “me first.” It places others in the space that “self” yearns to occupy, always considering the will and desires of others.

Love takes its time and considers things that are good. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. It does not take from others to satisfy self. It is not haughty or puffed up. On the contrary, love is mild and meek but not weak by any means; always focusing on the greater good.

Love is honest and true. It means what is says and expresses itself genuinely.

Don’t misunderstand these characteristics of love, they are filled with passion but are careful, considerate, intentional.

If you’ve determined by now that true love is inconceivable, you’re right. True love is rare; a sparse commodity. When discovered, it should be cherished, adorned, preserved. For the Bible reminds us that the grass will wither, the flowers will fade (Isaiah 40:8), even the gifts will cease, but love never dies.

As we prepare for Valentine’s Day, I implore you to search your hearts and minds. Determine if what you truly feel for the object of your affection meets the scope of the true definition of love.  If not, you might have some work to do.  Check your love meter.  In order to find and have true love, you must first open your hearts to it. I challenge each of you to try to truly love someone other than yourself.

Please share your comments and experiences of true love with us! We would love to hear your stories.

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Why Women Who Go From Blah to Beat are the Real Heroines

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I have this thing with women who love to brag that they don’t wear makeup like it’s some badge of honor or something. I always tell those women, “okay, I get it!” What I don’t tell the ladies is the real tragedy of being the chic who doesn’t wear makeup EVER is that you’re limiting yourself from so many other growth possibilities. You see, when you reveal the fact that you never wear makeup, you’re essentially telling me that you don’t adapt well to change, you’re possibly not open to growth, nor do you like to learn new things.

After all, are you going to go to that important dinner without wearing any makeup?  You think Angelina Jolie wants to hit the red carpet with no makeup? Is Michelle Obama ever seen at the White House without makeup? Of course, these women would not ever attend any important function in the public eye without that quintessential “beat”.

I see applying makeup as an activity the same as learning how to ride a bike or drive a car. In the beginning it seems hard, but once you get going and doing it regularly you see driving as an activity that makes your life easier. Further, you look good doing it. One might think that comparing applying makeup to driving cars is ludicrous, but it isn’t. They are both two activities that you learn how to do so that it helps you. At first, you might not be that good at it, but over time with practice you can improve your skills. In the end, you benefit from learning.

I started experimenting with makeup when I was five years old. I’m not kidding! My fascination with makeup started early. I think I had mastered how to apply makeup to my face by the time I was in the 6th grade. In those developing years, I learned a lot. The most important thing I learned from applying my makeup is how I could go from blah to beat! One of my colleagues told me years ago that on any given day when I didn’t wear makeup I was just Ponchitta Thompson. However, once I walked in with my makeup and hair on fleek, I was transformed into someone else. That colleague was right! Just like me, you too, can take baby steps to learn to create your own beat face.

That face beat made all the difference for me. My attitude changed, my self-esteem was at an all-time high, and my confidence levels were incredible. When my makeup is done right, I feel like I can take on the world. I’ve had many women tell me they feel empowered in the same way when they get their faces beat.

I think it’s a beautiful thing when you’re naturally confident. The woman who needs no extra confidence boost in the morning when she awakens or the woman that doesn’t need a spike in their confidence by adding lashes or red lips is someone special. To that woman, I applaud you because you’re a rarity.

However, for the rest of us that need that extra pep in our step or the extra jumpstart to boost our morale, I say don’t you dare feel bad because you love the beat. That beat does for us what spinach did for Popeye. It turns us into the strong, courageous women that we need to be to conquer all we must do in this world. I lift my wine glass up to all the women that don’t mind admitting that they love going from blah to beat. Once you start, it will change your life. You’re the real heroines.

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Are you a makeup snob?

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You’ve met this chic before.  You ask her what brand lipstick she has on and she pulls out her MAC tube like she’s holding gold straight from U. S. Mint.  You immediately want to tell her, “Girl, bye!” Instead you just sit back and gloat because she just spent $15 on lipstick that’s cute, but you spent $2.99 on your Wet n Wild and you’re cute, too, with an extra $12 in your wallet to go buy more!  Yea, makeup snobs are a trip aren’t they?

A makeup snob believes that your makeup isn’t poppin unless you have to rob a bank to pay for it.  A makeup snob believes that the best makeup only comes from expensive department stores.  Lastly, a makeup snob believes that because she strictly wears MAC, Lancome, or Dior, her makeup game is somehow superior to the budget-friendly shopper that chooses to wear Cover Girl or Maybelline.

Allow me to set the record straight.  Although some brands are marketed as high end products, price alone does not dictate whether its a better product or not for the consumer.  When it comes to makeup, there are many factors to consider that determine what products are better than others.  In particular, your personal skincare needs and sensitivities should determine which products are better suited for you. Cost, location, or prestige should have nothing to do with why you buy your cosmetics products.  Popularity and packaging does not mean better.

However, there are some products that cost more because they contain ingredients that others might not.  Be certain that those are ingredients that you personally need rather than want because someone told you you might need them.

The next time you shop for makeup don’t overlook drug store products because they are in the drugstore.  Cover Girl and Revlon have some of the best lipsticks on the market.  The quality is just as good as MAC and a few dollars cheaper.  Even if money isn’t an issue, maybe convenience is.  Don’t overlook some of the cheaper products because you’re busy being a makeup snob to notice there is very little difference in the quality.  After all, it’s just makeup, gals! Buy that Wet n Wild, girl!  Live a little…

Share with us what your favorite brands are below.

 

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Four Ways to Build Healthy Self-Esteem

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How do you visualize yourself? What thoughts do you have of yourself? Do you allow the opinion of others to make you doubt yourself? These are questions we should ask ourselves when we suffer with “low self-esteem” issues that affect many of us in our lives. Yes, it happens to many us. Yes, it has happened to me.
Webster-Merriam’s definition of self-esteem is “a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities.” Social Media images, celebrities, family, friends, co-workers, and people in authority play a part in making us feel like we should act and look a certain way. Whether you are comparing yourself to someone else or you are looking into someone else’s wishing to have their life, this behavior is not conducive to healthy self-esteem!
Respecting ourselves will allow us to have a better perspective and realize that none of us is the same. Everyone struggles with something. It is so important to love yourself first. Loving yourself should be easy, but there are times when it must be learned. As a teenager, there was a period when I was ashamed of my body because I was diagnosed with scoliosis. Even though I was considered “shapely” in those days, being told that I would never walk again made me have a lowly opinion of myself. Therefore, I developed low self-esteem. As a result, I believed I was no longer pretty, no one would want to be my friend, and my body was grossly disfigured. Then, a family member prayed for me, told me to look in the mirror daily and repeat:
“I’m fearfully and wonderfully made by God.”
Psalm 139:14
However, it was a process and took time for me to believe it and feel it in my heart. As I grew stronger and felt better about myself daily, I had to realize that no one knew I had scoliosis unless I told them because it was not visible to others. Thus, God saw fit to reveal things that man said would happen to me due to the diagnosis that did not happen.
Today I want to remind you that you are unique and different. It is ok to be YOU.

Still, with all of your flaws, you are even more beautiful. Do not allow the lies of the enemy to affect your view of yourself. It’s all about what you feel on the inside that will make your outside shine. Four things you should do daily to improve your self-esteem:
1) Pray.
2) Love God and Yourself.
3) Repeat a scripture and/or affirmations while looking in the mirror.
4) Treat others how you want to be treated.

Remember:
Life is full of difficulties that can shape our lives for good or bad. It’s all about how we go through those difficulties to help strengthen our character and ourselves. It is ok to feel discouraged, but do not stay that way. Adjust your crown daily and build healthy self-esteem because you are “fearfully and wonderfully made by God.”

Be Encouraged!
Tammie Johnson Porter

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Tammie Porter is a motivational speaker who founded “Be Encouraged” ministry and travels all over speaking to women about building healthy self-esteem. Her professional background is in mental and emotional health.  She lives in East Texas with her two handsome sons.

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