Love. The simple utterance of the word sends fireworks into the atmosphere. It evokes images of laughter, smiling faces and holding hands. Probably one of the most captivating words in the English language, it conjures up feelings of passion, yearning and undeniable emotion. At mere mention, women get giddy while men become afraid. It is a word that has the ability to rock a solid foundation or construct a weak one. Like lightning, love will jolt the body and electrify the soul. Each letter taken seriously, love, in all of its glory, is the air by which many of us breathe.
The world has deemed February as the month of love. What is True love?
Defined by Webster’s as a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection toward; love is penetrating. It is thought provoking. It is heart wrenching.
Defined by the Bible (I Corinthians 13); love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious, is not puffed up, is not selfish or easily provoked, does not think evil, rejoices in truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
True love is the essence of Webster’s worldview definition and the biblical definition combined. It is the ability to respond unconditionally. With no strings, attachments or judgment, love pays no regard to circumstance. Love is both shared and given “in spite” of condition. Love is faithful and shows affection or concern no matter the circumstance. It keeps no record of wrong. Love, in its purest form, acts as a catalyst drawing others close.
Love is so amazing it searches for the best, hunting deeply its prey, vowing never to give up.
Love is not “me first.” It places others in the space that “self” yearns to occupy, always considering the will and desires of others.
Love takes its time and considers things that are good. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. It does not take from others to satisfy self. It is not haughty or puffed up. On the contrary, love is mild and meek but not weak by any means; always focusing on the greater good.
Love is honest and true. It means what is says and expresses itself genuinely.
Don’t misunderstand these characteristics of love, they are filled with passion but are careful, considerate, intentional.
If you’ve determined by now that true love is inconceivable, you’re right. True love is rare; a sparse commodity. When discovered, it should be cherished, adorned, preserved. For the Bible reminds us that the grass will wither, the flowers will fade (Isaiah 40:8), even the gifts will cease, but love never dies.
As we prepare for Valentine’s Day, I implore you to search your hearts and minds. Determine if what you truly feel for the object of your affection meets the scope of the true definition of love. If not, you might have some work to do. Check your love meter. In order to find and have true love, you must first open your hearts to it. I challenge each of you to try to truly love someone other than yourself.
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